Tuesday, April 11, 2017
Friends for Life
Every couple of years or so we manage to get together with friends from our past. Sometimes friends from growing up, sometimes college friends, sometimes friends from earlier stages of our marriage.
We have moved four times since getting married so there is no shortage of friends from these various life stages.
One of the first couples that we made friends with when we were first married was Gwynn and Chuck. We were living in Cookeville, TN at the time and had joined a small group at our church. All of the couples in our group were older than us and most had started to have their first round of babies.
We were newly married and looking for friendship, and also people who were slightly ahead of us in the marriage game that we could look up to.
We felt an instant connection to Gwynn and Chuck and enjoyed many coffee dates, hikes, and camping trips as we shared similar interests.
As most good things, our time in Cookeville came to an end and we moved on to Charlotte, NC where we started over in another small group where most of the couples were starting their families and we were not. Thank goodness we have been welcomed into small groups regardless of whether or not we were parents!
We are grateful that over the last 13+ years we have managed to squeeze in periodic visits with our old friends from our early years in Cookeville.
One year we met up in Gatlinburg (I think for breakfast) before heading into the Smokies for an overnight backpacking trip.
A few years after that, they came to see us in Hollywood, AL. I was pregnant with our first child and they had three little ones running around. It was a blessing to reconnect and get some solid advice and encouragement as we were on the brink of finally becoming parents.
And another time we went to their home in Goodletsville, TN and spent hours visiting and introducing them to our two kids. Years may pass between visits, but we always pick right back up as if no time has passed.
A week ago their youngest was playing in a local soccer tournament and it worked out for them to come stay with us for the weekend. During the days it was all soccer but we still a managed to fit in a great visit when we could.
Even though their kids are older, all five children seemed to enjoy being together. By the end of the weekend Jack thought they were his cousins!
Saturday night we had a campfire and enjoyed S'mores with the Moores, then Sunday afternoon we took a hike to a local waterfall. It was such a lovely weekend, I don't think any of us wanted it to end.
After a weekend of kids (and adults) staying up way too late, we all crashed (Jack completely fell apart before dinner). This meant early bedtimes for our crew. Thankfully both kids slept in until 9am the next morning.
We feel so thankful to have so many wonderful friends in our lives who have been a blessing to us at different stages of our lives.
Moving semi-regularly is hard, but we have been truly blessed to find good people who have loved us in each place we have lived.
I hope that our kids grow up to find friendships that will last a lifetime, regardless of how often or how far they move.
Wednesday, April 05, 2017
Spring Break 2017: Play
While we did spend a portion of Spring Break in Florida visiting family, most of our break was spent at home, playing and doing fairly low-key activities.
While we did some fun things in Florida, play was also an integral part of our days there. Jack and Isaac happily played in their cousin's back yard: imagining, digging, running and being free. We also visited several parks and Jack had his first opportunity to go fishing.
The play time was great for them and it gave my sister and I a chance to catch up. While the beach was fun, these memories of unfettered play with their cousins are the ones I hope they hang on to.
Even though the weather was cool (especially for Florida) the kids still managed to get wet every single day. I don't know what it is about water, but it draws kids like a moth to a flame!
Once we were home from Florida, we took things easy. We got up every morning and made pancakes.
We had play dates with friends: swimming at our Y and playing at various playgrounds.
It was slow and perfect.
Tuesday, April 04, 2017
Spring Break 2017: Tallahassee Eats
One of my favorite things to do when traveling is to try out new places to eat. Our recent trip to Tallahassee provided several great opportunities to do this. Thankfully the kids typically do really well in restaurants and this trip was no exception.
Our first opportunity to eat out, my sister and her family took us to one of their favorite pizza joints: Momo's Pizza. Their tagline is "slices as big as your head" and they really were huge! You buy your pizza by the slice. I chose a supreme slice for myself and a four-cheese slice for the boys to split. It was so much pizza! And so delicious. We could have split one slice between the three of us. The leftovers were great too, though.
Second up was Angelo & Son's Tropical Shrimp Trader Company. This restaurant was in Panacea not Tallahassee, but we enjoyed it nonetheless. This was our big seafood day after an afternoon of beach play.
Angela and I both picked a seafood platter to split with our kiddos. I also ordered an extra order of hush puppies for Jack. We managed to finish it all. Fried seafood at the beach is one of my faves!
Our third opportunity to eat out came in the form of brunch on Sunday after church. We attempted to eat at two different Canopy Road Cafe locations but they were slammed. As a back up we ended up going to Jenny's Lunchbox and it was a big hit (even if we were crammed around a tiny table).
As a bonus we let Jack and Levi sit at their own table and they were perfect little gentleman. They even ordered their own food (pancakes) and didn't bother anyone (us or any other customers) for the duration of brunch. It's hard to believe that these two little 5-year-olds are capable of eating on their own at a sit-down restaurant!
I am a sucker for breakfast out and Jenny's Lunchbox did not disappoint. Jack had pancakes and I had fried eggs with ham and toast and also a side of biscuits and gravy (that I shared with Isaac). This little dive is worth a visit if you love a good home-made breakfast that you don't have to make yourself.
Finally, on our last day we drove up to Thomasville, Georgia on our way home so that we could go to Jonah's Fish & Grits. My sister had been raving about it, so we thought it would be a good way to end our trip.
Angela and I both had a grouper sandwich and it was out of this world. Their hush puppies really were the best ever, and the chowder I tried was divine. It's hard to find chowder in the south and man, this was good soup. It was a perfect way to end our trip.
Before leaving town we walked the kids down the block to The Mix for frozen yogurt.
If I'm being honest, this was probably the top pick for the kids in regards to food for the entire weekend. We let them pick ice cream and a reasonable amount of toppings and they were in kid heaven. Perfect way to end our spring break trip to see cousins!
Coolidge Park with Friends
Chattanooga has so many wonderful places and outdoor spaces to take children to. Coolidge Park is located on the North Shore of downtown and is a safe urban setting (if you aren't a fan of taking your kids hiking in the woods!).
We love meeting up with friends to play in the field, ride the carousel, and walk by the river. On warm days, when the fountains are working, we enjoying playing in the water too. Also, there are huge Magnolia trees below the Walnut Street walking bridge that are perfect for climbing (if you like that sort of thing, which we do!).
On this visit, we met up here on a Tuesday (instead of Friday) to enjoy the sunshine. The fountains were off, but we still had a great time riding the carousel, playing in the field and going down to the river to throw rocks. We are so thankful for our friends who are willing to get out and meet with us each week.
Monday, April 03, 2017
Books Read #8-10 ⎮ March 2017
Last summer I read the book Last Child in the Woods by Richard Louv and it gave me pause regarding how children in our country are spending less and less time outside (including a reduction in recess at school), and how that lack of time spent in nature is having a detrimental affect on learning and other aspects of life.
My brain has been mulling over what would be the best schooling option as our oldest fast approaches his first year of formal education. To be honest, I was pretty sure we were going to do public school. I had a good public school experience and the schools where we live are excellent. But then I sat down and read The Death and Life of the Great American School System: How Testing and Choice Are Undermining Education by Diane Ravitch.
The more I read, the more I started to have doubts. Not about our excellent local schools, but about schooling in America in general. Diane Ravitch, who has has been writing education policy starting under the first President George Bush, clearly outlines what has been happening in our country since the 1980s and it is discouraging. Especially when it comes to younger grades. A 7-hour school day seems like overkill for kindergarten, and the lack of time to play outside concerns me a lot – especially when compared to high-performing countries like Finland where testing is not a priority, and play is an integral part of a child's day.
In addition to this book, I have read countless articles, like This Really Isn't Kindergarten Anymore in the Washington Post, that echo many of my concerns and make me think there has to be a better way for schooling than what currently exists in our country.
At this life stage, I am a stay-at-home mom with the ability to educate my kids at home, and the more I read, the more I think that is what will fit us best, at least for now.
Passages that stuck out the most to me from The Death and Life of the Great American School System:
Another book I read last month was The Whole 30: The Official 30-day Guide To Total Health And Food Freedom by Melissa Hartwig. I feel like a have a good handle on exercise but my nutrition could be better. I like the idea of Whole 30, but finding the time to commit is daunting. Also, I have come to realize that my end goal in health is not to be skinny, but to be healthy and also to be able to enjoy good food. "Diet" type of meal plans always make me feel like I have to give up eating delicious food. I enjoyed reading the "whys" behind this meal plan, but am not ready to commit to 30 days of anything.
I recently started reading Nicholas St. North and the Battle of the Nightmare King (The Guardians #1) by William Joyce to Jack. It is written for older kids (probably 8-10 is ideal), but we are enjoying it. I have been surprised that Jack (age 5) will sit still for a chapter at a time. Sometimes he plays Legos, but he is listening. I have to explain parts of it and he doesn't get all of the nuances, but I am really enjoying it. I think we will re-read the series when he is older, or he can even read it to himself later.
Honorable Mention:
Jack and I are continuing with the Flat Stanley series by Jeff Brown. This month we read The Japanese Ninja Surprise (Flat Stanley's Worldwide Adventures #3) by Sara Pennypacker, Jeff Brown (Series Creator), and Macky Pamintuan. Jack loved this book since it is about Ninjas, and we are in the process of rereading it at bedtime.
My brain has been mulling over what would be the best schooling option as our oldest fast approaches his first year of formal education. To be honest, I was pretty sure we were going to do public school. I had a good public school experience and the schools where we live are excellent. But then I sat down and read The Death and Life of the Great American School System: How Testing and Choice Are Undermining Education by Diane Ravitch.
The more I read, the more I started to have doubts. Not about our excellent local schools, but about schooling in America in general. Diane Ravitch, who has has been writing education policy starting under the first President George Bush, clearly outlines what has been happening in our country since the 1980s and it is discouraging. Especially when it comes to younger grades. A 7-hour school day seems like overkill for kindergarten, and the lack of time to play outside concerns me a lot – especially when compared to high-performing countries like Finland where testing is not a priority, and play is an integral part of a child's day.
In addition to this book, I have read countless articles, like This Really Isn't Kindergarten Anymore in the Washington Post, that echo many of my concerns and make me think there has to be a better way for schooling than what currently exists in our country.
At this life stage, I am a stay-at-home mom with the ability to educate my kids at home, and the more I read, the more I think that is what will fit us best, at least for now.
Passages that stuck out the most to me from The Death and Life of the Great American School System:
Tests are necessary and helpful. But tests must be supplemented by human judgment. When we define what matters in education only by what we can measure, we are in serious trouble. When that happens, we tend to forget that schools are responsible for shaping character, developing sound minds and healthy bodies, and forming citizens for our democracy, not just for teaching basic skills.The last quote resonates with me the most, I have always held fast to the belief that no matter what education is available to my kids, at the end of the day, Daniel and I will have the biggest influence on our children's education. We will be the ones to fill in the gaps and guide them to learn the things we believe to be important, in addition to what they learn from others. If you are wanting a good overview of the state of our schools, this book is a long but worthy read.
American education has a long history of infatuation with fads and ill-considered ideas. The current obsession with making our schools work like a business may be the worst of them, for it threatens to destroy public education.
Our schools will not improve if we continue to focus only on reading and mathematics while ignoring the other studies that are essential elements of a good education... without a comprehensive liberal arts education, our students will not be prepared for the responsibilities of citizenship in a democracy, nor will they be equipped to make decisions based on knowledge, thoughtful debate and reason.
... at the same time that scores go up, the youngsters may be ignorant of current events, the structure of our government and other governments, the principles of economics, the fundamentals of science, the key works of literature of our culture and others, the practice and appreciation of the arts, or the major events and ideas that have influenced our nation and the world. Even as their scores go up, they may be devoid of any desire to deepen their understanding of knowledge and may have no interest in reading anything for their own enlightenment and pleasure. And so we may find that we have obtained a paradoxical and terrible outcome: higher test scores and worse education.
Reformers often say that the teacher is the single most important factor in raising a student's test scores. This is not quite right. Researchers have consistently concluded that the teacher is the single most important factor that affects student learning inside the school, but non-school factors matter a great deal more... teachers can have a profound influence on their students, but on average, what families do or don't do influences academic outcomes even more.
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Another book I read last month was The Whole 30: The Official 30-day Guide To Total Health And Food Freedom by Melissa Hartwig. I feel like a have a good handle on exercise but my nutrition could be better. I like the idea of Whole 30, but finding the time to commit is daunting. Also, I have come to realize that my end goal in health is not to be skinny, but to be healthy and also to be able to enjoy good food. "Diet" type of meal plans always make me feel like I have to give up eating delicious food. I enjoyed reading the "whys" behind this meal plan, but am not ready to commit to 30 days of anything.
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I recently started reading Nicholas St. North and the Battle of the Nightmare King (The Guardians #1) by William Joyce to Jack. It is written for older kids (probably 8-10 is ideal), but we are enjoying it. I have been surprised that Jack (age 5) will sit still for a chapter at a time. Sometimes he plays Legos, but he is listening. I have to explain parts of it and he doesn't get all of the nuances, but I am really enjoying it. I think we will re-read the series when he is older, or he can even read it to himself later.
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Honorable Mention:
Jack and I are continuing with the Flat Stanley series by Jeff Brown. This month we read The Japanese Ninja Surprise (Flat Stanley's Worldwide Adventures #3) by Sara Pennypacker, Jeff Brown (Series Creator), and Macky Pamintuan. Jack loved this book since it is about Ninjas, and we are in the process of rereading it at bedtime.
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